10 WITH A 10: KENZIE BRENNA
10 with a 10 is a weekly interview series featuring strong women who run their gigs like a boss.
I've posed 10 questions, stopped laughing and crying long enough to snap a Polaroid and put their interviews up every Monday to promote their hustle with a wide community that should know about them.
This week, Kenzie Brenna, a true firecracker in every sense of the word. She doesn't mince words, shoots straight and hard, commands all the air around her, yet has such a gentle, curious, welcoming spirit.
I adore her.
1. What do you do and what does it give to people?
I run a bar and I give people a night off from their lives. Allowing someone to check their responsibilities at the door and help them have a good time with some food and a drink.
2. What's a piece of advice you consistently find yourself giving out but find hard to take yourself?
Live the life you love and love the life you live. It's such a hallmark-ey, cliche, Oprah-esque quote, but it's so fucking true. If you're not falling in love with your entire life, what are you falling in love with?
3. How do you rely on others to make you better?
I rely on my family, friends, my love, my coworkers and culture to question me, challenge me, wrong me and right me to push me into a better understanding of myself and our world.
4. Someone gives you 50 mill. What's the FIRST way your life changes?
My ability to breathe changes.
Not having my breath be restricted by anxiety due to the pressures of finances, family finances and the idea that opportunities are seldom changes and all of a sudden don't exist.
..and my shoe collection.
5. What has compelled you forward more than anything else?
Definitely money, success and ambition. I started working when I was around 10 years old with my dad. Making $60-80 bucks when you're ten years old doesn't change much 15 years later. It can still take you to far places.
I find I feel better the harder I work because the rewards are greater, the failures are greater and the rush is greater.
6. Do you like when people ask you, "Where do you want to be in 5 years?"
It keeps me in check.
Even if I don't know, at least I have to imagine. At least I have to think about it and reflect on it.
Someone should ask me this once a week. I'm sure I would be making different decisions if they were.
7. If someone was handed a script of your inner dialogue this week, what would it say?
"Is this right? Does this feel good? What does feel good if it's not this? Why is this happening? You know why this is happening. This is happening because you took all the appropriate steps for it to happen. No one is forcing you. Are you happy? Well sometimes, most times? How do you know if you're not present. You need to do more yoga. You don't have time to do yoga. But you do have time to breathe which means you do have time for yoga. God, I wish I had a friend to go do yoga with. You do have friends that do yoga! Get over it. I'm hungry."
8. Are you spontaneous?
No. I wish!
Why, what are you thinking?
9. Are you failing differently each time?
I try to not screw up the same way I did last time and I'm pretty good at it. There's nothing worse than saying to yourself, "Here we go again." when I'd rather be saying, "Alright, this is a new kind of hurt."
10. Paul Newman or Robert Redford?
ROBERT REDFORD. Helloooooo, Horse Whisperer.
I'll give him a few things to whisper.
* It's rare that there's a photo of me shooting the shit in any 10 with a 10 series interviews, so here's the rare one.