10 WITH A 10: STEPHANIE METCALFE
10 with a 10.
Every Monday, 10 questions with a 10 coming your way down the pipeline.
And this is the first one of 2016!
Stephanie Metcalfe has become a fast friend. She's been in my orbit for a few months and now she's one of those people that I wonder, "What did I do before I knew Steph?!"
If you're looking for a woman who can bake a couple of pies at the same time she pours out some stiff truth about where she's at with God, you've come to the right place.
1. What do you do and what does it give to people?
I am an Assistant Events Manager at Arcadian Court with Oliver and Bonacini. Working in hospitality is rewarding because the purpose of my job is to take care of guests in a way that is beyond their expectation. My drive is to execute a flawless event, whether a wedding or corporate function, my job is to ensure quality service to each guest.
2. What's a piece of advice you consistently find yourself giving out but find hard to take yourself?
This answer is for my closest friends. I absolutely LOVE to love people. A big part of that is probably because I LOVE to be loved. But the one thing I have to constantly break down for myself is not to love them the way I would want to be loved.
It's so classic.
I want others to experience love in the exact same way I do, but that's not the way it works. Praise God there's grace because I fail at this miserably.
He reminds me, "Steph, look deeper into what others find precious and love them that way.
You don't know everything."
3. How do you rely on others to make you better?
I need to be kept accountable. I rush into a lot of things before thinking it through. I so often need to be reigned in so that my ideas and dreams can actually become a reality instead of becoming so overwhelmed at the massive goal I just made for myself. Getting to know the people around me gives me perspective, gives me vision, gives me hope and motivation.
4. Someone gives you 50 mill. What's the FIRST way your life changes?
My giving increases. I absolutely love to give gifts, because I know exactly how amazing it is to get gifts! I constantly feel torn between wanting to get something for someone because I know how much they would love it and my bank account almost always saying no. How freeing would it be to give the way I wanted to give.
I know I should give anyway, so maybe I have a skewed view for giving. I want it to be substantial by my standards. God usually has a different plan.
5. What has compelled you forward more than anything else?
It's hard for me to admit because I am not very good at instilling discipline in my life, but my parents taught me from a very young age how important it is to apply myself to learning, practice good manners and have a strong and honest faith. They kept me accountable to study in high school, showed me how to nurture a relationship with God and lead by example, all of which earned my utmost respect. Those small disciplines have made me who I am and allowed me to get to where I am. They have become habit.
Thanks mom and dad :)
6. Do you like when people ask you, "Where do you want to be in 5 years?"
I enjoy thinking and planning ahead, but I HAVE to live day by day. Its the only way for me to be productive, and not be completely stressed. When people ask me that question, it makes me nervous. I know I have an incredible future ahead of me, but I have no idea what it looks like. I just know it will be great - living for the kingdom of heaven guarantees it.
“I don’t know, but I know it will be great” is an insufficient answer for the person asking…worst.
7. If someone was handed a script of your inner dialogue this week, what would it say?
When are we going to have them for dinner?
When is my next night off?
What would I make?
When am I getting coffee today?
Do I have time to bake a pie this week? Two pies…oh wait...3.
I wish I had my work schedule.
If I work at 5 which train do I need to catch and do I have enough time to shower?
I better toss this load of laundry in.
I need to book a nail appointment.
Are Landon and I growing closer together or farther apart?
Should we be setting up specific times to connect personally?
I could get coffee on the way to work.
Does he feel thats important?
Would he initiate something like that?
Is he feeling overwhelmed?
How do I love him better?
"Lord, give me patience and a heart willing to change. Grow Landon and I closer than we’ve ever been. Teach us new and exciting things about you and each other."
Am I in my bible enough? No, read more. I should do that right now.
I don't know if I can wait until work for coffee.
I should buy a gingerbread house. I love gingerbread.
I never want Christmas to end.
I should turn on some Christmas music, I still have to make my playlists on Spotify.
How is my life advancing the Kingdom?
Do I have an eternal perspective?
Am I saying and doing exactly what I see the Father doing?
God let me see like you.
Remember to water the tree today…and make the bed.
I should do a quick vacuum.
I need a coffee.
8. Are you spontaneous?
I am spontaneous when it comes to things I like to do. Haha! Like going for dinner or opening a bottle of wine on a weekday night. But I have a harder time scrapping a whole day of meticulously planned scheduling for something that has just come up. I’m working on it! I would love to be a more ‘go with the flow’ type person.
If I have some time off it’s easier. When I feel a release of responsibility of deadlines or work I can relax and enjoy being spontaneous. And those are some of my favourite life memories. However, my commitments to church and work take precedence on a day where I know things need to get done. I find my quiet time with the Lord and hopefully a coffee are the only things that comes before what I have to accomplish in a day. Once those things are done, I can kick back, relax and embrace spontaneous moments.
9. Are you failing differently each time?
Urr, failure. My absolute greatest fear. In this season of my life I do feel like I am failing differently each time. I’ve had times for sure where it felt like the same thing over and over. I have high expectations for myself so for any short coming, I find that I notice pretty quickly and become disappointed in myself. I let people down constantly. I show up late to work. I didn’t hug my sister goodbye. I didn’t follow up with that project. I spoke in an unloving tone of voice. I get jealous of other peoples lifestyles. I forget to thank chef for dinner. I didn’t spend time with the Lord today, on and on every day is a myriad of different things.
Praise God there is grace that covers, He forgives every single one, and gives me a second chance.
10. Paul Newman or Robert Redford?