10 WITH A 10: LAUREN MCPHILLIPS
10 with a 10:
I ask Q's of a 10, snap a Polaroid and share it with ya'll.
That's about it.
This week, let's hear it for Lauren of This Renegade Love!
This girl is a ground-taking, bullseye-seeking woman. She's an entirely beautiful presence to be around because she leads so beautifully and so honestly that her strength is inspiring, not intimidating.
And that's the best kind of woman to be around in my books.
1. What do you do and what does it give to people?
Well, I have a website called This Renegade Love that I launched last year, with content created around lifestyle pillars like career, travel, style, wellness and giving back.
I also do profiles on ‘renegades’ – people who have ditched the nine-to-five to follow their passion, whether that’s to start their own business, travel the world or launch a charity program in their community.
All of the content on my site is created around three values – inspire others, celebrate life and give back to those who need it most. I guess what I give to people (without sounding too wanky) is inspiration to build themselves a better life.
2. What's a piece of advice you consistently find yourself giving out but find hard to take yourself?
To be ‘off’ every now and then. To put my phone down, close the laptop and disconnect. I know it’s such an important part of living a balanced life, but holy crap is it tough. Especially when your business is to be online and to sustain and grow an online community. My boyfriend is good at bringing me back to reality, though, and reminding me that the world won’t end if I leave my phone at home for the day (though that thought still terrifies me haha).
3. How do you rely on others to make you better?
As much as I strongly believe that the greatest relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself, I also think it’s important to surround yourself with the people who make you a better version of yourself. The people that keep you grounded, know who you really are (and love you for it) and make your best qualities shine like a diamond rather than dull them out.
4. Someone gives you 50 mill. What's the FIRST way your life changes?
The first thing I would do is take my family out to the top restaurant in Toronto and not give one single ounce of gaddamn about how much the bill is. Like, not even look at it. All the lobster, all the steak, all the champagne. I’ve never done that before!
Next would just be divvying up my winnings between savings, family and charity. And a hefty sum allotted to spending a year travelling the world and balling out. All the while still creating content for This Renegade Love – that’s my baby and my passion, so that would never change.
5. What has compelled you forward more than anything else?
Success for sure, but as I get older, it’s more of my own version of success than anyone else’s. When I started my career, I was definitely driven by what other people deemed to be successful – working my way up the corporate ladder, lush salary, job title, my circle of friends. Once I turned 30 and quit my full time job and ventured off on my own, I gave zero fucks about what anyone else thought of my life. I’m driven by what I deem to be successful, which is usually measured by the amazing relationships I cultivate in the community, the positive impact I can have on people through my writing, and building a brand that I can be proud of and that makes me happy.
6. Do you like when people ask you, "Where do you want to be in 5 years?"
I mean, I don’t hate it.
On one hand it makes me really think about the impact I want to make in the world. But I prefer to think big picture about what I want in life (a steady freelance business, frequent travel, a house, etc.), and limit my goalsetting to the upcoming year. Because let me tell you, a helluva lot can change in five years time. Five years ago I thought I was going to be running my own PR firm and now I’d rather die than work in PR again (slightly dramatic, but roll with me here). I think that if you make goals for the year ahead, it’s way more manageable and you’re likely to stay on track.
7. If someone was handed a script of your inner dialogue this week, what would it say?
“Slow ride…… take it easy….”
I'm literally singing that in my head because miraculously, I have no events or meetings scheduled for this week, and it is GLORIOUS. A couple of workouts here and there, but apart from that, I’m spending this week tapped in to my creative soul, brainstorming on upcoming content and writing, writing, writing. As someone with a schedule that doesn’t resemble anything close to a routine, weeks like this are rare but always appreciated.
8. Are you spontaneous?
Oh god no. And I so wish that I was. It’s actually one of the things I’m really trying to work on, and that goes back to the disconnecting from my phone and making more time to just unwind and relax. I usually have every day planned out way ahead of time, so when someone suggests something out of the blue, I’m likely to say no. Which is no way to live!
9. Are you failing differently each time?
Shit, girl - what a great question! I like to think so. I think that we’re so quick to judge our stumbles as failures rather than learning experiences and when you do that, you’re more likely to set yourself back from reaching your goals. If you take the time to look at each misstep as a learning point, you can move on and improve going forward.
10. Paul Newman or Robert Redford?
I’m a sucker for a man with kind eyes and an equally kind soul.